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Men’s indifference to learning about contraception and to taking any responsibility for it is a theme that emerges from many reports of projects that have attempted, and failed, to reach and educate men. One of the most successful programs of contraception education for men, a Planned Parenthood project in Chicago, abandoned its attempts to reach men over the age of twenty-five when it was found that these men simply would not participate, even when offered beer, sandwiches, free condoms—and “stag” movies. Instead, the project targeted a younger group, and as part of its research the project conducted a survey of over a thousand men aged fifteen to nineteen:

• These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.
• They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.
• And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion.

These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.”

Largely because of attitudes such as these, one million teenage women—one tenth of all teenage women—become pregnant each year, and two thirds of their pregnancies are not wanted.

bohemea:

Paz de la Huerta: Paz Uncensored - Lovecat Magazine Summer of Sex Issue by Ellen Von Unwerth, Spring 2011

I will apologise for faithlessness, neglect, deceit, cruelty, unkindness, vanity and meanness, but I will not apologise for the urgings of my genitals, nor certainly, will I ever apologise for the urgings of my heart. I may regret those urgings, rue them deeply, and occasionally damn, blast and wish them to hell, but apologise - no: not where they do no harm. A culture that demands people apologise for something that is not their fault, that is as good a definition of tyranny as I can think of.

Paz de la Huerta: Paz Uncensored - Lovecat Magazine Summer of Sex Issue by Ellen Von Unwerth, Spring 2011

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It's not just a phase, bitches. ›

any time you’re feeling depressed, just remember you’re the winner of the biggest race of all…the sperm race!

John Mayer for Funny or Die - Well worth the three minutes!

“If I can’t get the girl, why don’t I just tell her I’m John Mayer?…How about something everyone can relate to, like when you’re fucking one supermodel and you make the others jealous”

January Jones by Terry Richardson

Let us toast to animal pleasures, to escapism, to rain on the roof and instant coffee, to unemployment insurance and library cards, to absinthe and good-hearted landlords, to music and warm bodies and contraceptives… and to the ‘good life’, whatever it is and wherever it happens to be.

If you’re not mature enough to treat consent like a continual process, you’re not mature enough to be having sex. By which I don’t mean “OMG teh kidz can’t have teh sex!” I mean, if you can’t grasp and act on the basics of consent, you’re taking on a responsibility you’re not equipped to handle. Like stealing your parents’ car when you don’t know how to drive, you can really hurt yourself or someone else that way.

Cameron Diaz

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